Couples Game Night

This post comes inspired from a Facebook discussion. The question posed was "Ladies, why must you play Mind games? What is the Point?"

Obviously a woman like myself could not read that and not give my two cents.

I proceeded to say that we only play games because guys play games. The best part being when guys play games and won't even admit it.  I meant this. Now this is not going to become a man bashing post but rather I would like to get real here. ( insert Dave Chapelle  joke about when keepin' it real goes wrong)

We as women play games to keep men interested. You are creatures that need constant stimulation in order to keep you entertained. So therefore we cannot make ourselves too readily available for you because you will get bored. We have to take the toy away from you in order to make you see how much you want it. ( see previous post "Titles... and I'm not referring to cars" for toy reference) We also do this in order not to get too wrapped up in you. ( because you obviously are that fantastic that we have to take precaution not to become stage 5 clingers from the jump)  This is all essential to do in the beginning of the relationship so that you can establish your worth as a woman.  Call these games if you wish.... I call them tactics.

I call them tactics because after several scientific investigations ( i.e. dating in Miami) I have found them to work... like an effing charm. Most of my friends (Women and Gay men alike)  that have also had a 100% success rate with these tactics. Now guys take this the wrong way, as if we only do this to "play games." You should be flattered that I would go to such lengths to want to keep you interested. It means I really like you. When I don't do this then you should worry. See I don't do this with every Tom, Dick, and Harry that crosses my path. Most of the time I don't care enough to try that much. I only do this with men that I want to keep around. It's a way to weed out the men from the boys and see if a man really has feelings for you or if he is just feeding you what you want to hear.

This also doesn't mean that I want to have to do this very long. There is an short amount of time that should be dedicated to this exchange. If you feel you have to continue to do this for months in order to keep his interest then more than likely that is not the man for you. This should only be done to establish your worth in the beginning but once you do that you shouldn't have to again. If you feel like you do, more times than not, He's Just Not That Into You.

Eventually, if the relationship is to work, the games stop and the feelings become real for both parties involved. It needs to be about the passion and connection you have for each other. If you don't have that then you don't have anything and its better just to move on.

So what's the point of mind games, you ask. To show you that we care in a twisted, confusing way only the beautiful female mind can come up with.

-E.C.